Winner Thinking 101~ To Risk or Not to Risk~

Time to Risk More?
(Note to reader: As always, of course you need to be willing to take all consequences of your actions.)
100 people aged 100 were asked:

“What do you regret most? What would you do differently?”
The majority answered: “I wish I had risked more”.

We regret the things we don't do, far more than the things we do.

Fear STOPS us living.

We get a sense of security.... which can be upset at any moment anyway. Control is an illusion - we can't control events.

So it’s a sad joke on us humans that the people who try hardest to live in their comfort zones get upset the most.
Once we accept that we can’t control life,

and that comfort is not very fulfilling,

we are free to risk.

What can happen?

Rejection, moving into a smaller home,

losing our partner, breaking an arm, losing a job we like etc.

But above all we fear looking silly, foolish, or failing at something.

What would your life be like if for the past

10 years you had lived without fear?
What if life is a game, and we've forgotten?

We attach significance to everything

- no I can't ask her out because XXXX,

I shouldn't apply for that job -

I wouldn't get it.

I'm not going to take singing lessons - I'm not any good.
If you feel you are at risk of regretting

not fully living your life

when you lie on your death bed,

I invite you to complete the following exercise:

Optional Exercise:

Write down three areas where you play it safe.

Pick one area where you are willing to risk more.

Play a bigger game.

Live LIFE!

Is it dating?

Communication - telling the truth ALWAYS!

Going on a holiday - backpacking through South America?

Making a commitment - moving in/marriage?

LEAVING a relationship!!?

Pick one, and share it with a friend.

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Top Ten Suggestions To Risk More
(Note to reader:

As always,

of course you need to be willing

to take all consequences of your actions.)

1) Tell the truth, regardless of the consequences

2) Say ‘no’ when you feel ‘no’

3) Ask for what you want in your job (e.g. location, pay rise)

4) Go for the job you REALLY want

5) Ask out that guy/girl you REALLY want to go out with

6) Ask for something you REALLY want in your relationship.

7) Move to where you REALLY want to live

8) Say ‘yes’ to something with an uncertain outcome.

9) Book an adventure outside your comfort zone

(e.g. horse riding, white water rafting, sky diving, sailing.)

10) Be vulnerable to someone you’re arguing/in conflict with.

~ "David Wood is a personal and business coach, and an original founder of the International Coach Academy - a global coach training school"
Copyright 2001-2004 Life Coaching Resource.com

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These Questions and Answers

can change your entire life today,

Wash, rinse, repeat.

Here's to your best you today,

Heather

www.hjempowerment.com

www.badkittyartstudio.com

Power Truth, and the power of Truth

http://www.evolutionaryawareness.com/blog/2006/02/14/quantum-relating-from-conflict-to-synergy/

To Share in brief, this is a great example of what we as a family and as individuals are doing NOW.

Here's the part that I thought really needed sharing now: So here's the clip, do go to the page link above to read the entire article.

Telling the Truth
Telling the truth is not just about not lying. It is about honoring yourself—expressing what you truly want. It is about saying what is there for you—what is in the space between you when you look at the other person. “Of course!” You may say. But we stop short all the time, don’t we? Or we share irresponsibly by blaming and shaming. We do this for several reasons:
1. Fear [that the other person will not like us, leave us, that we will not be liked, etc]

2. Fear that the other will respond in a way that we do not want to deal with [shame, upset, etc—essentially their inability to “hear” our truth]

3. Attachment to the Other or to the relationship and being identified with it as the “I”—feeding in on 1 and 2 above4. While 2 is a real and valid fear that can be verified in our experience with the person we are in relationship with, numbers one and three are due to a lack of a healthily developed ego which can certainly be overcome.

5. We blame and shame for an often hollow and short term “self-esteem” boost. Not really esteem for the self at all—but pre-rational ego where we indulge in superiority or go for that pound of flesh or that pint of blood. To extract payment for “wrongs” and lose all graciousness and openness. In the end, this is a lose-lose approach.
As in all things related to evolution, it is not a question of whether we experience the above or not—but rather to what degree.

What is fundamentally necessary for telling the truth is our ability to witness our sensations and emotions as well as meta-cognition—that is thinking about our thinking or about our own process. It is these skills of self-observation that allow us to notice when we have internal dissonance and to notice how telling the truth typically relieves that tension. We can also share “responsibly”. That is we can say “I am noticing I am…” upset, etc. rather than the irresponsible “you upset me”, etc.

Additionally, the acceptance that there is no true “one” for us assists in relieving the attachment once noticed. That there are many and that each relationship we have will be deeper and richer for so long as we are conscious and consciously evolving we are attaining greater depths. As a result, we can reflect back greater depths. As a result we have deeper and richer relating. We often also confuse qualities that we love for the people—collapsing qualities with identity.

The truth, contrary to the Platonic view of love, is that there is no “other half” for us to find or be completed by. And to paraphrase Nathaniel Branden, until one is completely at ease with the truth that they are ultimately alone are they ready for healthy romantic love.

Learn !

Be Well,

Heather

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